I see these claims of oppression, but that is a gross misuse of the word. Arab women cant even go outside alone, that’s oppression. Having a man look at you or take up space isnt oppression. You undermine the efforts and struggles that real oppressed people go through. Answer me this, when you…
Everyone’s battles are their own.
I’m so happy and grateful I got access to education, and have food and shelter, because not everyone does. But being forced into sex and being shamed about it by your closest friends and being exiled from what you used to call your community is a struggle.
Being unable to wear a long sleeve shirt and jeans out without being called a dyke, because you have short hair, isn’t the worst thing that can happen. But it definitely takes an emotional toll.
Conversely, dressing up for your birthday in a flattering dress and having people mutter “slut” also takes a toll on you. In America, there’s nothing that a woman can do that is appropriate. Revealing too much is slutty. Revealing too little makes you a lesbian.
So, I’m willing to say that a lot of American woman realize that they could have it a lot worse. But no one should go as far as to say how we should or should not feel. I’m fairly self confidant and love myself, but being told repeatedly that everything you do is wrong; everything you choose to wear is wrong; the way you cut your hair or act is wrong; that is oppressing because there are plenty of days where I’ve decided I’d rather sit at home than go out and deal with the comments. And having been condition to think that without sex, you cannot be loved, has been extremely oppressing and HAS taken a toll on my self worth.
Everyone’s battles are their own.
No im sorry but being called names is not anywhere near the same as systematic oppression. Not even close
I didn’t say systematic oppression. I said oppression. There is oppression.
The term oppression in such instances to refer to the subordination of a given group or social category by unjust use of force, authority, or societal norms in order to achieve indoctrination.
Just because someone’s family wasn’t murdered doesn’t make a rape less horrific. Just because someone’s family member died in a car accident doesn’t make it less poignant than someone who lost a family member in bombing.
You can’t decide what is and isn’t a struggle. And I’m not saying that there aren’t Americans who are too ignorant to realize there could be struggles worse than their own. But there are plenty that do realize what is going on in the world around them, yet still have their own struggles to deal with.
You post a lot about people making large blanket statements, but you’ve made a pretty large one yourself.
Are you freaking serious? Newsflash, rape happens to everyone so are we all oppressed? Wtf is this about a car crash? Did I say rape wasnt traumatic? Do you even read what you are saying? Guess what? You get raped, there are laws against that, you have a voice, you can face your accuser, you can get help, you are not oppressed. Those girls in the middle east? They have no voice, they get raped and they can take no recourse, hell they might even get in trouble, that is oppression. I am not debating this, if you see American girls as oppressed, that is on you
False. I can use my own example, or the examples of 10+ friends I can think of, just off the top of my head.
The detective on my case stopped answering my calls. I have no legal protection against this person. I was harassed at school. I got called a slut, a pervert, a whore. Daily. People stopped talking to me. People in school organizations refused to associate with me; alienated me so I would quit. I couldn’t step on campus without being harassed. My stuff would get taken from me. I couldn’t go to class without someone “accidentally” running into me (yeah, in COLLEGE.) or taking every effort to make it impossible for me to exist.
The one thing I have in America is a VOICE; but then again there are countless people going around saying that women like to LIE about sexual assault and abuse. And because people do that, people like me get told they are liars looking for attention, and get exiled. So for a while I didn’t even have a voice. And actually, when I tried to have a voice I got told “Well he posted on Facebook first, so it looks like you’re lying”.
And to answer your question, rape is oppressive. It is a war tactic, it is a manipulation and power tactic, and it is emotionally oppressive, as well as often physically. So yes, if you have been raped or sexually assaulted I would say that you were oppressed and maybe are still oppressed. Maybe you’re not being allowed to go about your day without someone harassing you. Maybe the emotional toll is drawing you towards suicide.
But I’m smart enough to know that even though my situation almost made me take my own life, that some people didn’t have the choice whether they wanted to live or die. And I wasn’t going to dishonor that.
You can say you have a problem with the word “feminist” but please don’t say what American women do and don’t deal with unless you are one. Because there are a lot of stories that don’t get told, because we get ignored or told not to bring them up.